Time to Reconnect.

It has been a long time since I posted on my blog. Life got busy and so here we are. A monumental time of self-quarantine has allowed me the time to self reflect and reconnect with what I love so here goes. Tomorrow I start a new day to start reconnecting with my passion for writing and expressing my thoughts.

What Doesn't Destroy You, Changes You!

Crazy how when we get torn down mental and emotionally we can't see the benefits when we are in the middle of it. The past few months and especially the last few weeks has truly changed me in so many ways. Through the pain I have felt I have grown substantially. When I was in the middle of the pain i couldn't see a end in sight or a silver lining to it. However through this pain I was able to feel it and eventually heal it. In the middle of going through one of the most painful experiences of my life thus far I was able to see how I could grow from it and look inside myself to heal the damage that helped create it. Funny that in the middle of the storm we can't see the rainbow that is about to come. Boy was this rainbow worth it, I have came out of this knowing that I a new woman that is continuing to rediscover my inner peace and strength. I am a more aware woman who is consciously working on myself each day. So many of my wounds from childhood and my early 20's can been covered up and not dealt with but it wasn't until I felt this pain that the dam was broken. I was able to see inside myself and not focus on the pain but focus on replacing the damage with peace, light and refreshment. So my advice to everyone that is going through something right now is that trust the process. There is a reason for everything, know that this will help you. 

Growth doesn't come in comfort, it comes through struggle and pain. 

Finding Yourself Again!

Well after a long hiatus I am back to what I love. Writing is truly a outlet for me to express myself and share my thoughts with like minded people. It is crazy to think that sometimes we lose ourselves even when we are doing our best to not. I for so long put others before myself and allowed my standards to be shorted but today I am taking that back. I am in control of my destiny and I am the one who can drive myself forward. It is funny that it isn't until you step back and really look at things from the outside that you see the impact is had on you. I am thankful that through all my growth, struggle and change I have some great people who have pushed me forward. That is what makes true friendships last. The ability to rely on those few people is what gives you power to push forward when the days seem so dark. I have truly found my voice again and I am thankful to be able to jump back in and share my thoughts with all of you. Looking forward to finding myself again in a new form and growing more. Thanks to all of those that have been there through it all.

Enough is Enough!!!!

Where do we draw the line and say enough is enough! I am not sure when or how but we all come to this point at one time in our lives.  I think we all allow things to go on for too long or perhaps we choose to ignore it. However, there comes a point when you just can't take it anymore. You have had enough, the cup is overflowed. So what you do at that point truly defines a lot about your character. Will you face the issue head on or will you continue to ignore it? Will you make the leap and change the situation or choose to continue in it? No one can tell you when and how to do this, because it is your journey not theirs. What I will say it that taking the necessary time to think about it and logically come to a conclusion is not just smart but is necessary. That way you make a well thought out plan and put it into motion.

My 1st Blog Contribution for Mother Manifesto

five Ways to Find Me Time During the Daily Chaos


So Proud to share my 1st blog contribution for Mother Manifesto a fabulous mom community that I am proud to be a part of.

Be Thankful!

During this time of year it is always easy to just get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays but it is important to remember what the holidays are really about. So as Thanksgiving comes upon us I would like to remind everyone that it isn't about the food or the football. It is about family, friends and cherishing the time we get to spend with the ones we love and remembering the ones we lost.

The holidays have always been hard for me for the past 8 years, as I lost some people that were so dear to me that even after this long it still cuts me to the core to not be able to spend my holidays with them. However, after years of trying to come to terms with this loss I have learned that I have to cherish the times we had and remember that although they may not be here physically they are always with me spiritually. It wasn't until I had my son that I truly was able to embrace the holidays again after losing the ones I loved. Now I try to give my son the same memories and appreciation for the holidays that they instilled in me. That is what it is all about. Passing on traditions and creating more memories to cherish. So this thanksgiving, I am most thankful for my son and being able to be the best mother I can be and give him the best life possible. All the hard-work I put in, is for him, so that we he looks back on his life he can have some wonderful memories to cherish of how much he was loved and cared for.

So this Thanksgiving, cherish the ones you love, remember the ones you lost and enjoy the memories you are able to create.  Be grateful for all that you have and be thankful for all that is to come.

From my family to yours I want to wish everyone a very happy, healthy and safe Thanksgiving.

If You Don't Set Boundaries, Who Will??

All to often we forget to set boundaries for those around us. However, if we don't set them who will?Without these boundaries we let people assume that they can treat you however they want, which leads to you allowing others to hurt you. So it is important to set boundaries on what you will and will not tolerate and enforce these by not allowing others to go past your boundaries.

My entire childhood and now adult life I have watched as someone very dear to me has allowed not setting boundaries to deplete their self worth and let them live in fear each day. That is no way to live but given that they have allowed this to go on for so long, that is all they know. This is why as a young woman I always told myself that I would never allow myself to feel that way. That I would always make sure I got the respect I deserved and would uphold my self-worth. Watching first hand how damaging it can be to let someone hurt you emotionally, mentally and physically, I never wanted to feel that way.

With that said, I just want to send out the message that only you can set the boundaries of how you are treated by others. So be firm, be strong and know that you are worth the respect and love you deserve. We all are!!